Well 2020 will most definitely go down in the History books as being the year “That changed the world”. With many of us working from home, struggling with home-schooling, spending 24/7 with our significant other, it’s hard to separate work from home-life as it all jumbles into one long 24 hours. Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout?
It’s easy to feel like we are starting to spiral out of control, loose our way and identity. With having more people at home – I currently have my youngest son isolating for 14 days due to a teacher having been diagnosed with Covid, a son working crazy shift patterns and a husband that is home much , much more than before Covid, I know i have been Struggling to find a routine that works for us all.
The past 7 months, my quiet little work space has been invaded by Live school lessons, blaring tv’s or PlayStation games. I have more mouths at home demanding to be fed…( suddenly no one can make themselves a sandwich in this house) a dog that cannot believe her luck that the whole family is home so is constantly turning crazy circles and My 3 x weekly commutes to London for brand launches replaced by Zoom calls at crazy times of the day that see me screaming at the family to be quiet, whilst turning off the constant whirr of the washing machine, shutting the door to the constant screech of the electric sander as my husband decides (finally) to do some home DIY and hide wine bottles from my office – we’ve all been there…..Phew
We are going through crazy times and no I am not a doctor or nurse, but I do have a Blue Light worker in my household and no I am not trying to perform Brain surgery, but I am trying to hold down a full time job, build a brand, run a busy household, be a teacher, mother and wife, stay in touch with my family and friends via whats-app and facetime, keep everyone safe, my house clean and sanitised whilst trying to keep my sanity in check.
It was all this that one day, about 5 weeks ago, got the better of me and made me decide to sit down and ask the myself and you a question Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout? My blog is all about empowering women to be whomever they want to be, wear bright coloured make up if they want to, dye their hair pink at any age, buy extortionately expensive fragrance just because the bottle is pretty and celebrate how utterly fabulous they are.
However, 7 months in, even I had become bored of dropping cash on pretty things, drinking prosecco at 11am just because and walking around the house in a red lip just to feed the dog. This is so unlike me!!!! That’s when I realised I was suffering the Lockdown burnout. Waking up at 5am to work (I’m self employed so don’t get any help)Home-schooling, cooking, cleaning, zooming, being on social media 24/7 for everyone, going to bed at 1am wondering if i got everything done. It just got too much. I was burning the candle at both ends and not nurturing my soul. I was constantly pushing myself more and more to get more and more done in my day…. That saying you have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé ringing around in my head….
Then suddenly something snapped…. I woke up exhausted and thought to myself, I just can’t do this….. I just cannot carry on at this pace. I was exhausted. I had a headache Every. Single. Day. I had aches and pains on my aches and pains. I had a major flare up of my very serious illness, I started thinking constantly about the loss of my dad, knowing that Covid had robbed me of my chance to grieve. I had stopped going for walks, I was grumpy, grouchy, anxious and loosing weight (every cloud…) I had stopped drinking…. (believe me, if I haven’t got a glass of something fizzy in my hands it’s a bad day) I wasn’t indulging in my favourite programmes, i had no time to wash my hair or for bubble baths, audio books and skincare. I had suddenly stopped being me whilst trying to please everyone else and I disliked it.
I don’t know what causes the brain to just say “enough is enough” or what makes us suddenly stop and listen, but the epiphany does happen and you have to embrace it.
Suddenly I knew my daily walk amongst the sea air, had to restart….as much as I think I can’t be bothered, once i’m out – face mask on, it just lifts my soul. I started lessening my work load using the motto “if i am not being paid, i am not going to dedicate my time to it”… I know that’s harsh in my line of work, but that’s how it has to be. I started having those long, hot bubble baths regardless of time… 3pm fancy a bath? Do it!! I went to bed early just so I could catch up with The Only Way is Essex from the very beginning – yep, trash tv is my vice! I had a massive clear out, if I hadn’t touched it looked at it or worn it in 12 months then bye bye.
I re-evaluated my lifestyle and relationships and what I wanted out of my life… I had two full weeks of doing WHAT I WANTED TO DO and saying no to things instead of always saying yes and do you know what that did? It gave ME back!! It gave me energy, it re-awakened my zest for my job, it made me appreciate the joy of this moment in time and having my family around me. We may never get this time again, and I know it has been a shit crazy crazy time, but we have all learnt so many lessons…. but mostly I have learnt the importance of Being Kind to myself and everyone else. Treating myself and those around me kindly and staying true to my feelings…
So….Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout? Try these small changes where possible:
- Create new moments of the day, so that you have something to look forward to…. for me that includes the time to watch a movie whilst eating chocolate with my kids, but also some alone time having a bubble bath with an expensive “Saved-for-best” bath oil whilst listening to Audible.
- Exercise some way…. I live near the sea and also have a Forrest at the end of my road and find that at 30 minute walk first thing in the morning with the dog, sets me up for the day.
- Talk….talk talk talk! Find someone you trust and talk about your feelings and I bet your bottom dollar they are going through the same. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that.
- Have some alone time, just to be….. I know that’s hard with all the current restrictions Covid has put on us, but send the family out for a walk whilst you blast some loud music and have a boogie, or have an early night with just a box of chocolates and a boxed set for company
- Go to bed early! Spritz your bedroom with your favourite Sleep spray, pop on an eye mask and go to sleep.
- Wear fragrance and make up!!!! I cannot stress this enough! Getting up and “putting on your face” will make you feel like you have achieved something. For me it makes me feel like me. Then I add a spritz of my most uplifting fragrance and I can feel my soul sing.
- Ask for help. If you really find yourself struggling, speak to your GP or contact the charity MIND. Do not keep anything bottled inside.
I hope this post has helped you realise that, yes we are all going through a hard time, but it’s ok to be struggling more than others, it’s ok to ask for help, it’s ok to not be ok. I am always here for you. Feel free to leave me a comment below.
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