Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout?

Well 2020 will most definitely go down in the History books as being the year “That changed the world”. With many of us working from home, struggling with home-schooling, spending 24/7 with our significant other, it’s hard to separate work from home-life as it all jumbles into one long 24 hours. Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout?

Lifes all too much

It’s easy to feel like we are starting to spiral out of control, loose our way and identity. With having more people at home – I currently have my youngest son isolating for 14 days due to a teacher having been diagnosed with Covid, a son working crazy shift patterns and a husband that is home much , much more than before Covid, I know i have been Struggling to find a routine that works for us all.

work from home

The past 7 months, my quiet little work space has been invaded by Live school lessons, blaring tv’s or PlayStation games. I have more mouths at home demanding to be fed…( suddenly no one can make themselves a sandwich in this house) a dog that cannot believe her luck that the whole family is home so is constantly turning crazy circles and  My 3 x weekly commutes to London for brand launches replaced by Zoom calls at crazy times of the day that see me screaming at the family to be quiet, whilst turning off the constant whirr of the washing machine, shutting the door to the constant screech of the electric sander as my husband decides (finally) to do some home DIY and hide wine bottles from my office – we’ve all been there…..Phew

drinking out the bottle

We are going through crazy times and no I am not a doctor or nurse, but I do have a Blue Light worker in my household and no I am not trying to perform Brain surgery, but I am trying to hold down a full time job, build a brand, run a busy household, be a teacher, mother and wife, stay in touch with my family and friends via whats-app and facetime, keep everyone safe, my house clean and sanitised whilst trying to keep my sanity in check.

It was all this that one day, about 5 weeks ago, got the better of me and made me decide to sit down and ask the myself and you a question Are you suffering Lockdown  Burnout? My blog is all about empowering women to be whomever they want to be, wear bright coloured make up if they want to, dye their hair pink at any age, buy extortionately expensive fragrance just because the bottle is pretty and celebrate how utterly fabulous they are.

wearing jo malone

However, 7 months in, even I had become bored of dropping cash on pretty things, drinking prosecco at 11am just because and walking around the house in a red lip just to feed the dog. This is so unlike me!!!! That’s when I realised I was suffering the Lockdown burnout. Waking up at 5am to work (I’m self employed so don’t get any help)Home-schooling, cooking, cleaning, zooming, being on social media 24/7 for everyone, going to bed at 1am wondering if i got everything done. It just got too much. I was burning the candle at both ends and not nurturing my soul. I was constantly pushing myself more and more to get more and more done in my day…. That saying you have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé ringing around in my head….

Then suddenly something snapped…. I woke up exhausted and thought to myself, I just can’t do this….. I just cannot carry on at this pace. I was exhausted. I had a headache Every. Single. Day. I had aches and pains on my aches and pains. I had a major flare up of my very serious illness, I started thinking constantly about the loss of my dad, knowing that Covid had robbed me of my chance to grieve. I had stopped going for walks, I was grumpy, grouchy, anxious and loosing weight (every cloud…) I had stopped drinking…. (believe me, if I haven’t got a glass of something fizzy in my hands it’s a bad day) I wasn’t indulging in my favourite programmes, i had no time to wash my hair or for bubble baths, audio books and skincare. I had suddenly stopped being me whilst trying to please everyone else and I disliked it.

Hair wash day

I don’t know what causes the brain to just say “enough is enough” or what makes us suddenly stop and listen, but the epiphany does happen and you have to embrace it.

leigh on sea

Suddenly I knew my daily walk amongst the sea air, had to restart….as much as I think I can’t be bothered, once i’m out – face mask on, it just lifts my soul. I started lessening my work load using the motto “if i am not being paid, i am not going to dedicate my time to it”… I know that’s harsh in my line of work,  but that’s how it has to be. I started having those long, hot bubble baths regardless of time… 3pm fancy a bath? Do it!! I went to bed early just so I could catch up with The Only Way is Essex from the very beginning – yep, trash tv is my vice! I had a massive clear out, if I hadn’t touched it looked at it or worn it in 12 months then bye bye.

Bubble bath time

I re-evaluated my lifestyle and relationships and what I wanted out of my life… I had two full weeks of doing WHAT I WANTED TO DO and saying no to things instead of always saying yes and do you know what that did? It gave ME back!! It gave me energy, it re-awakened my zest for my job, it made me appreciate the joy of this moment in time and having my family around me. We may never get this time again, and I know it has been a shit crazy crazy time, but we have all learnt so many lessons…. but mostly I have learnt the importance of Being Kind to myself and everyone else. Treating myself and those around me  kindly and staying true to my feelings…

So….Are you suffering Lockdown Burnout? Try these small changes where possible:

  • Create new moments of the day, so that you have something to look forward to…. for me that includes the time to watch a movie whilst eating chocolate with my kids, but also some alone time having a bubble bath with an expensive “Saved-for-best” bath oil whilst listening to Audible.
  • Exercise some way…. I live near the sea and also have a Forrest at the end of my road and find that at 30 minute walk first thing in the morning with the dog, sets me up for the day.
  • Talk….talk talk talk! Find someone you trust and talk about your feelings and I bet your bottom dollar they are going through the same. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that.
  • Have some alone time, just to be….. I know that’s hard with all the current restrictions Covid has put on us, but  send the family out for a walk whilst you blast some loud music and have a boogie, or have an early night with just a box of chocolates and a boxed set for company
  • Go to bed early! Spritz your bedroom with your favourite Sleep spray, pop on an eye mask and go to sleep.
  • Wear fragrance and make up!!!! I cannot stress this enough! Getting up and “putting on your face” will make you feel like you have achieved something. For me it makes me feel like me. Then I add a spritz of my most uplifting fragrance and I can feel my soul sing.
  • Ask for help. If you really find yourself struggling, speak to your GP or contact the charity MIND. Do not keep anything bottled inside.

I hope this post has helped you realise that, yes we are all going through a hard time, but it’s ok to be struggling more than others, it’s ok to ask for help, it’s ok to not be ok. I am always here for you. Feel free to leave me a comment below.

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Sharon xx

54 Comments

  1. Lida Brice
    October 22, 2020 / 5:34 pm

    Its not been easy now Nicola is bringing in 5Tier just getting more absurd every time.Thankyou for doing a giveaway we can all do with a cheer up Sharon xxx♥️♥️♥️

  2. Carol
    October 22, 2020 / 5:51 pm

    Fab blog Sharon, can relate to so much of this

  3. Joanna
    October 22, 2020 / 5:54 pm

    Amazing blog post – so honest and real!

    • Tania Atfield
      October 25, 2020 / 8:49 am

      Yes definitely experienced lockdown burnout, being in furlough for 5 months will do that but one month in I had begun exercising every day, changed my diet completely, taken up kayaking which I haven’t done since I was 18 and spent more close time with my sons and husband. If I hadn’t done those things I think I would be screaming by now. Fingers crossed we all stay safe and well.

  4. karen crossan
    October 22, 2020 / 6:07 pm

    Fab post and i think we have all been there or going through it , totally agree with the perfume and makeup , been working at home now since March and that little routine along with the morning dog walk does set me up for the day and also got into the habit of spraying perfume after a bath in the evening ! its the little things xx

  5. Helen
    October 22, 2020 / 6:47 pm

    Thankyou so much for this …… things are really getting to me now …….. I came off anti depressants back in April ……I have struggled a bit but managed somehow ….. until now anyway …… so I will try your list of ideas and hopefully get through without going back on the meds …… thanks again …. and stay safe xx

  6. Lucy
    October 22, 2020 / 8:18 pm

    Omg. You have hit the nail on the head.
    In every paragraph.
    Every description.
    Every suggestion.
    Every trigger point.
    I may only have a husband at home, but still have many of the same work (or lack of) issues, we had tenants who stopped paying, left last week with unpaid rent, a pile of bills and even stole the oven from a house we had lovingly reformed over years. This week was the week I snapped. I cannot visit family or care for friends who need it more than me.
    But this blog has lifted me, proved I am not alone or going crazy. I have this minute paused everything and everyone and have an Elemis bath running with my last remaining bottle of their gorgeous shower milk.
    Thank you for putting things into perspective Sharon. You know I love all your blogs full of great beauty and skincare, but this was just what I needed here and now.
    xxx Lucy xxx

  7. Lorraine
    October 23, 2020 / 7:50 am

    Very good advice and will give it a go. Was out of work for 6 mnths and sleep pattern went out of the window. Luckily, the work situation is resolved but sleep pattern (very lack off) has not. Would love that feeling off having energy again. Thank you for sharing xx

  8. Eirian
    October 23, 2020 / 8:23 am

    Well said Sharon, you’ve described exactly how a lot of us are feeling!! This too shall pass xx

    • Norma-Jean
      October 25, 2020 / 3:17 pm

      So fed up with covid and lockdowns, but we must keep going xx

  9. October 23, 2020 / 8:44 am

    lock down has done me on via treatments and pain management, gps shut, tablets thrown at you with No care of consequence or withdrawal afterwards. the same no interest in little things that make me happy due to a government that gaslights, punishes,and makes you feel anxious on purpose daily. but started meditation again and it’s helping and vitamin D too x

  10. Tara Taylor
    October 23, 2020 / 9:11 am

    Absolutely in love with this blog, hits the nail on the head over and over, especially as full time working mums we need to just STOP. Take a check on our own wellbeing and mental health and say what do I need for me. Love this, we are all the better for the ones around us is we feel awesome in our own minds and body’s.

  11. June Marsh
    October 23, 2020 / 1:33 pm

    I’m exhausted too, it’s ok to not be ok, talking about it helps and like you I found a walk along the seafront clears my head xxx

  12. Andrea Upton
    October 23, 2020 / 1:56 pm

    Like most people I have found it pretty tough but have tried to keep busy and go for lots of long walks

  13. Joan gray
    October 23, 2020 / 7:14 pm

    Some good ideas and advice. Your post is so well thought out.

  14. Nicola Sadler
    October 23, 2020 / 7:30 pm

    I find it more tiring than anything else. My son keeps me running around so that’s probably why 🙂

  15. Fiona Doran
    October 23, 2020 / 8:52 pm

    Such a great post! So many good tips. This has been really hard for everyone xx

  16. Sue
    October 23, 2020 / 9:21 pm

    I was nodding along with every sentence of this blog.

    I have tried to make my ‘new normal’ days as uplifting as possible. My husband and teenage son are both working from home. I have been working extra shifts at work so feel exhausted.
    My recent restock of my days means I no longer feel guilty as I lock myself in the bathroom and use the good stuff instead of keeping it for best.

  17. Vanessa
    October 25, 2020 / 8:15 am

    Fab post. I feel the same way it’s been so difficult and I’m absolutely shattered at this point. Lots of your tips are great , I’ve definitely found getting out at least once a day for a walk has helped me improve my mood.

  18. Olivia
    October 25, 2020 / 8:57 am

    Definitely hasn’t been the easiest year. Pampering definitely makes feel good. Thanks for the tips 🥰

  19. Hannah Smalley
    October 25, 2020 / 8:58 am

    Lock down was OK for the first month and then I rapidly went downhill, one morning I decided to start wearing my contact lenses again & actually style my hair, it made such a difference and from then on I made a point of making an effort Mon-Fri and getting the boys back to “normal” bed routines so I had the evenings for me. So reassuring to read I wasn’t the only one going through this!

  20. Beckie
    October 25, 2020 / 9:02 am

    Great post which we can ALL relate to. I don’t think there’s a single person that hasn’t been affected. I have a daughter in supported housing for physical and mental health and have only been able to see her once without a hug since February. She’s in an area that’s on high alert so I can’t see her still.

    I’m actually going to sort my wardrobe out today and then take some time to do my nails – one positive thing to come out of this is that I’ve taught myself how to laminate my eyebrows, perm my lashes and do gel nails….. I actually feel better about myself when I do these things (after a month th of living in joggers and scraping my hair back).

    Love your posts, and how real they are.

    • Naomi
      October 25, 2020 / 7:04 pm

      I think I was definitely suffering Lockdown burn out too! I definitely agree with applying fragrance and makeup. I didn’t make an effort for MONTHS but now I make sure to do a full skincare routine and apply a little glowy makeup every day and it’s made so much difference to how I feel. I’ve also adopted a healthier lifestyle when it comes to food, making sure I get my veggies but also still enjoy my favourite treats!

  21. October 25, 2020 / 9:17 am

    Absolutely this! I couldn’t go back to work until September because of local lockdown in my area and it felt like I’d lost my identity. We couldn’t afford childcare anymore so I was suddenly a stay at home mum for the first time and I couldn’t even do any of the things to make it enjoyable like baby groups with other parents. Things changed when my husband asked me what happened to all my “projects?” and I realised that my version of self care is spending time on my creative hobbies. I feel so much better now I’m back sewing and taking pictures.
    Thank you for this post and giving us all a reason to have a little vent!

  22. Susan Ocock
    October 25, 2020 / 9:21 am

    I coped well during total lockdown, but finding the current changes and uncertainty very exhausting

  23. Hazel
    October 25, 2020 / 9:28 am

    Strange times. We’re all in this together yet it is so easy to feel alone. All the best, everyone ❤️

  24. Sian Goodwin
    October 25, 2020 / 10:02 am

    This is the most honest and raw blog post I’ve seen in a long time! Thanks for being so relatable and making me realise I’m not going crazy!
    What a fabulous giveaway too! ❤️❤️ Xx

  25. Chloe
    October 25, 2020 / 10:20 am

    Wow, I didn’t realise just how badly I had lockdown burnout until reading this post! Through lockdown I was literally just drinking through the day to make it through. And I don’t know about anyone else but I’ve found it incredibly difficult now leaving the house after being inside for so long, major anxiety kicking in. Thank you so much for being so honest and sharing this, and for the great advice too, I’m definitely going to take it on board. Lots of love to you all xx

  26. October 25, 2020 / 10:36 am

    Love this post Sharon! It’s so helpful, I too have been feeling burnt out by lockdown. I’ve been shielding my husband since March (he’s got CF and waiting a double lung transplant) so it’s been really tough. I was furloughed at the start then returned and shortly after faced redundancy, thankfully I kept my job but I have found it difficult adapting to working at home as I miss human interaction and also being home a lot more means my husband and I get under each others feet (as he’s permanently at home too). I’ve been trying to be more active and more recently seen friends occasionally outdoors for a walk too but think I’ll follow up on your tips and spend more time walking or exercising and also having regular pamper evenings to switch off!

    Great post xx

  27. October 25, 2020 / 11:08 am

    I love this post, so honest so real
    I have suffered with lack of social interactions maknly

  28. Nicola
    October 25, 2020 / 11:18 am

    Definitely have lockdown burnout. My parents have been shielding since early March. My mum needs a hip operation, can barely move and is in constant pain. My parents house flooded 2 months ago and getting the house dried out, decorators in during a pandemic has been a nightmare. My son had to self isolate a few weeks ago due to a positive covid case in school. We are getting out for forest walks to escape the madness when we can. Self care is needed more than ever right now.

  29. Vicki
    October 25, 2020 / 12:03 pm

    Love your blogs. I have worked for the NHS throughout covid – I’m a patient experience officer and everyday we work to keep patients and their families connected when they cannot see them face to face, sometimes for the last time. It’s tough some days but I am passionate about my role and everyday is special. Here’s to staying strong, staying safe and sharing love and kindness x

  30. Natasha Douglas
    October 25, 2020 / 12:16 pm

    I defo struggled with homeschooling during lock down and working from home at the same time. I felt pulled in 2 directions and feeling like not really doing my best in either. So relieved kids are back to school and for a new normal!

  31. Caroline
    October 25, 2020 / 12:18 pm

    I truly feel for those of you that are in lockdown and working from home.
    I work for the NHS and am Truly exhausted. It is such demanding intense work. However the reality is this Covid is killing those that can’t fight it. To see speak to loved ones that can’t be with their family in their last days is the most upsetting and heart breaking think ever. Then I put myself in their shoes and you would never wish that upon anyone.
    Beauty is my hobby, my mental health n to have an amazing give away it just the ticket 🎫 as they say. Keep safe everyone we will win this battle eventually 🙏xx

  32. Kristina Kelly
    October 25, 2020 / 12:51 pm

    Are you suffering lockdown burn out?
    I certainly am, having a baby in lockdown has been one of the hardest things I’ve dealt with. Feeling very isolated and wish my parents and family could spend time with my little boy.
    I’m hoping and praying that 2021 is a better year for everyone xx

  33. Abbie
    October 25, 2020 / 4:09 pm

    Such a great read! Thank you for sharing and it’s so relatable!

  34. Larissa Morato
    October 25, 2020 / 4:52 pm

    It’s been such a strange year! I still haven’t seen my parents since January and feel so frustrated by how our government is dealing so badly with this scary virus. I know you also had such a difficult year! Thank you for the lovely giveaway.

  35. Amy
    October 25, 2020 / 5:33 pm

    I have really struggled with lockdown to, my little boy had just gotten used to nursery then was pulled out and back at home with me full time. We were in the process of moving home to the uk from Ireland, the house sale fee through 3 times but eventually we made it! Then due to COVID our new house was delayed so we had to stay at my mother in laws for a month! It’s been a crazy year but my little guy has settled into a new school nursery and is loving it, we’re in tier 2 here in Solihull so no family can visit here but at least we can still get out to parks to see them. On the positive if me and my husband can survive that I think we can get through anything 😂 I’ll never again take for granted hugs, a nice cup of tea with my mom or birthday parties – my little boy turns 4 this week and we can’t do anything with anyone else.

  36. Hayley Marie Wood
    October 25, 2020 / 8:31 pm

    I could relate to pretty much all of what you wrote on your blog. Honestly I’m frazzled. Have a hol booked in 3 weeks (got cancelled 3 times already) hoping to recharge my batteries and have quality time with hubby. Will worry whilst I’m away still as my problems won’t disappear but hoping being on a tiny island will change my mindset

  37. Shelley JESSUP
    October 26, 2020 / 12:06 am

    You bring out some great points. I am also so pleased you are using your platform to help people with mental health, I lost my cousin to suicide a few months ago & he had only just started showing signs of mental health a few weeks before.

  38. Sarah kochan
    October 26, 2020 / 6:59 am

    I’m definitely having a burn out. It’s been such hard work for me. I have a 1 year old and a 12 year old. My eldest has hated having not to go to school and my 1 year old hasn’t experienced any baby groups. I feel quite lonely most days. Financially I have suffered going from maternity pay to furlough- but thankfully I have kept my job and go back on the 2nd November, looking forward to having a little bit of me back xx

  39. Laura Stabler
    October 26, 2020 / 1:24 pm

    I think there’s plenty that I can relate to and I’ve noticed that I’ve changed my routine from what it was at the beginning of lockdown. There’s some great advice which I know I will feel better for carrying out.

  40. Lizzy Kingshott
    October 26, 2020 / 10:04 pm

    I have really struggled in lockdown. I moved out from living with my mum and moved in with my boyfriend – 2 weeks before lockdown started. It was hard as I had moved to a new town too, so wasn’t local to my family anymore and then I just felt alone. A time when it should have been so happy, was so so hard. It’s better now that I can physically see them from a distance. Working from home is also hard. I know I am lucky to still be in employment but boy, are the lines blurred working from home 5 days a week.

  41. lyn west
    October 28, 2020 / 8:28 am

    Totally kow how you feel. It’s been a real struggle to get back into some sort of routine. Friends…thats whats kept me going

  42. Sonia
    October 28, 2020 / 10:13 pm

    Amazing post 🦋🦋🦋

  43. October 29, 2020 / 8:08 am

    You are an inspiration, Everyone has had a rough time and you’ve been down 2 earth and honest…😊🙋‍♀️

  44. October 29, 2020 / 8:56 am

    This really resonated with me. Great post, thanks! X

  45. Anita Hague
    October 29, 2020 / 9:00 am

    What an honest blog, and i am sure we can all relate to.some of it.!!

  46. Kerry Jones
    October 29, 2020 / 6:01 pm

    Thank you for sharing how lockdown has been for you. I’ve struggled so much as my 3 children have additional needs and I also have ME and Fibromyalgia so having them at home 24/7 has been a nightmare. I’ve just had not time to recover and rest like I would have when they were at school! Not being able to see close family as I am in the at risk group for covid and they work in a hospital has been tough. Zoom and whatsapp just don’t make up from a physical hug! You’ve done amazingly well to keep on going xx

  47. October 29, 2020 / 6:28 pm

    Probably like a lot of people I’ve stuggled with the isolation. This has been one long old lonely year!

  48. Lynne M
    October 29, 2020 / 7:28 pm

    Thank you Sharon i really did need to read this! Working from home now sometimes means i dont leave the house and seperating work/home has become difficult!

  49. October 29, 2020 / 10:42 pm

    It’s no so much the being at home and not seeing my work colleagues since mid-March, it’s the sleeplessness that is literally driving me mad. I’d love a night, alone, in a big hotel bed with room service and some good movies to chill out, forget the world and it’s pandemic and just have uninterrupted me time x

  50. Georgia
    November 7, 2020 / 4:44 pm

    It’s nice to know I’m not alone feeling like this! Thank you for the tips, I’m going to try and take some ‘me time’ easier said than done with a 3 year old and 8 month old. Thank you for being so honest xx

    • backtoyoubeauty
      Author
      November 10, 2020 / 8:51 am

      It is so hard with young children isn’t it, but pop on a movie with them and rest with lots of warm snuggles xx

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